Tag: Authenticity
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When the Mother Wound Turns Against the Feminine
A man’s relationship with the feminine does not begin with his first love. It begins in childhood. It begins in the arms, the eyes, the tone, and the nervous system of his mother. If the feminine felt safe, warm, emotionally attuned — he learns that love is steady. If the feminine felt volatile, shaming, unpredictable,…
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The Hidden Danger of Victim Mentality
One of the most dangerous relational dynamics I have come to understand is victim mentality. At first, it does not look dangerous at all. It looks like pain. Like someone who has been misunderstood, mistreated, or let down by life. Empathy naturally follows. The instinct is to help, to understand, to be a safe place.…
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Navigating Narcissistic Dynamics with Awareness and Light
There is a growing conversation around narcissism, but lived experience often tells a deeper story than labels ever could. These dynamics are rarely obvious. They tend to operate quietly, through avoidance, projection, control, and a persistent inability to take responsibility, especially when the relationship has ended and children are involved. Rather than focusing on diagnoses,…
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🖤 The Right People Will Love You — Darkness and All
We all carry darkness. The parts we’ve tucked away. The moods that rise like tides. The stories that shaped us but still ache to be understood. For so long, we’re taught to only show the light , to be easy, soft, and endlessly positive. But that’s not real love. Real love sees the full picture,…
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✨ The Illusion of Control: How Holding On Keeps Us From Truly Living
Control is one of the most deceptive illusions we cling to as humans. We convince ourselves that if we can just manage everything — our relationships, our children, our partners, our circumstances — then we will feel safe. Secure. Worthy. But the truth is, control isn’t safety. Control is fear wearing a mask. It’s fear…
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🌑 From Wounds to Wisdom: Transforming Pain Into Power
Astrology often mirrors the healing work we’re doing on the inside. Today, with the Sun in Leo forming a trine to Chiron in Aries, many of us may be feeling raw, emotional, and face-to-face with our deepest wounds. It’s not always comfortable. Old stories of betrayal, abandonment, or rejection may rise to the surface. We…
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Divorce Doesn’t Damage Children—Hostility Does
One of the biggest myths I’ve ever heard is that divorce “ruins” children. It’s not true. What does cause deep, lasting harm is the emotional warfare that sometimes follows. The tension. The control. The use of children as pawns in an unresolved battle between two adults who haven’t fully healed. I’ve seen this firsthand. Not…
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Their Behavior Is Not a Reflection of You
So many of us take how others treat us personally—especially when it’s someone we once trusted, loved, or shared a life with. We wonder what we did wrong, why they’re so cold, so dismissive, so cruel. And if we’re not careful, we begin to internalize their behavior as a reflection of who we are. But…
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It Starts With You
I’ve been sitting with this for a while. Honestly, I’ve avoided writing about it because I know it’s triggering. But part of healing—real healing—is learning to sit with what makes us uncomfortable. And this topic? It needs to be talked about. I’m talking about parenting and unhealed childhood wounds. Because the truth is, many of…